Dear Short Little Rebel,

You make a post, minus video, closing comments off and state your feelings. While I get your point, that in almost every case we read, see or hear, there are TWO-SIDES to every coin, your hurtful words based on your “opinion” and yes, you state fact when it is in your “FEELINGS” is doing much the same as your chastising post.

Both sides (based on your comment the teacher didn’t know Caleb thought he was speaking) failed, Caleb. The one in the end that was hurt most, was Caleb. The Teacher is grown and though the hateful rhetoric poised at her, was vulgar and mean, she, as a capable adult, can deep down rationalize “some” of it.

Caleb, cannot.

Many things could have been done to prevent this.Mom whispering to the teacher “he wants to say Goble-Gooble” because, what would allowing a little boy to say Gobble, Gobble have hurt? Two simple words could have given a large gift to a little boy who struggles every day.

I’m the parent of such a child… their struggle daily, is FACT.

In the video you conveniently left off– you can hear “gasps” from other parents as the teacher “Snatches” and yes… I saw the video. SHE SNATCHED it with force and turned her back on a clearly, upset child. Autistic or not, that was a DOUCHE move and she’s paying the piper for it. If, as you state violent threats are coming her way, than no–that’s taking things way too far. But she DID react inappropriately to this situation.

I SAW the video and that is FACT.

According to you, MOM did too. You go on to say, he never attended practices, maybe that was for the best? Either way, a simple Gooble-Gooble, an innocent want, of an innocent child was ignored, and you say “he’s entitled” but then the mom “wants others to treat him the same”–well Ms. Short Rebel, there is no “regular” with Autism. It hurts. It can cut a parent to the bone knowing our child rarely fits in, no matter how hard they may try. Then we see beautiful actions and emotions so raw, many other children wouldn’t have experienced and our hearts are filled with hope.

Autism is a cursed blessing.

We have brilliant, beautiful children that are of their own world but yet which we often cannot merge into our own.

Until you can understand this, I suggest laying off the “entitled” comments.

You haven’t walked down the bumpy, golden road.

Original Video: Caleb Youtube Video

Short Little Rebels Post Link: Short Little Rebels Link

Bobbi Romans

Author-Mom- Grandmother- Wife– basically, a human with compassion.

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5 responses to “Dear Short Little Rebel,

  1. Hello, this is short little rebel. I’m surprised to find myself the target of your post, but since I am, please allow me to respond. What I find most surprising of all is that people see that this teacher has already received hundreds of thousands of whiplashes from parents like you and still feel she hasn’t received enough. All for taking a microphone away from a child who should not have it. She set a limit that made a child cry. It is not the crime of the century. And yet the teacher has received so many death threats that the school was forced to go into high security mode, forcing over a thousand children to play indoors and have a security force in high alert. But people like you are not satisfied with this level of ‘punishment’. You want more. You see that she has received every comment or complaint you want to make- in fact, the very comments you have made here on your blog have already been made hundreds, thousands of times already- but you, personally, feel you must say them again. Why? Because you, personally, want to whip the teacher in question too? Because you have been frustrated by ‘the system’ and cruel people too? why must you add more punishment to this woman when you see the hundreds of thousands of whiplashes she has already endured from a crazed mob? That is the question I am asking in my article. My article is providing the missing information from the mother’s story. She was disingenuous. This is just the truth. I have no doubt that she never intended this mob attack. That isn’t her fault. That is your fault and everyone like you. You have a deep seated need, which is wrong headed, to add more punishment, when enough, more than enough, inhumanly enough, has been done to this teacher already.

    The fact of the matter is this- an you need to think about this- many of you parents of children with special needs- are personalizing this situation and can’t separate yourself, your child and every frustration you have had in your lives from this story. And the reason the actual facts of this story can’t change your mind is because the facts of your real life situations aren’t changing. And your real life anger remains. Therefore, you can’t change your anger and frustration toward this teacher. She has become your whipping boy and you WILL whip her. But that is just emotional immaturity and it is fundamentally unfair. You need to separate yourself and your child from this situation and realize that 1) this teacher didn’t do anything wrong. 2) any criticism directed at this mother is NOT directed at you. Only in this way can you assess this situation correctly and fairly.

    Now, why you are addressing me is beyond me. In fact, it seems ludicrous. I have absolutely nothing to do with the situation. In fact, it is a private situation that should never have been made public. The ONLY reason I had to speak to the mother’s actions was to stop the mob attack against this teacher. And the only reason I did that was because I was watching a crime against humanity. And as a writer, I felt I might be able to help stop it and thus, have a moral obligation to try. That’s it. If you had read the comments, you will see that I have not allowed any bashing of the mother and I have prayed for the mother and family and a good, peaceful ending all around. So, please don’t add me to the controversy. Thank you, Susan Shannon

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    • First, lets clarify a few things.
      1) I never saw nor read the mothers anything. I saw the video. I HEARD the video, I was witness to the gasps of adults, and the wailing of a shocked, heartbroken CHILD.

      2) You saw you are surprised to find you are the “target” of my post. Did you not post, under the name, Short Little Rebel? Yes? Then thus my titling and reply post directed to you. I’ve seen no other posts, or else I may have added other names.

      3) I made it clear in my posting I’m against violence or threats of violence. While I completely think the teacher acted abhorrently, in this situation, and has no business directing plays/musicals or anything involving more than one child at a time, I am opposed to any threats of violence towards her, you or anyone else involved in this.

      4) You say “Because you, personally, want to whip the teacher in question too?” No, but if a teacher lacks empathy, or knowledge of how children with special needs reacts, she shouldn’t be teaching/reacting with them.If a bus driver can’t drive… he shouldn’t be driving a bus. Its not to pick on her, its capabilities,not personal attacks.

      5) Again- you say ” many of you parents of children with special needs- are personalizing this situation and can’t separate yourself, your child and every frustration you have had in your lives from this story. And the reason the actual facts of this story can’t change your mind is because the facts of your real life situations aren’t changing. And your real life anger remains. Therefore, you can’t change your anger and frustration toward this teacher. She has become your whipping boy and you WILL whip her. But that is just emotional immaturity and it is fundamentally unfair. You need to separate yourself and your child from this situation and realize that 1) this teacher didn’t do anything wrong. 2) any criticism directed at this mother is NOT directed at you. Only in this way can you assess this situation correctly and fairly.”

      Again I SAY: She has no business dealing with children with special needs. I stand by everything I said in my post. YOU were addressed, because YOU made a post about it. I don’t know you-the boy, the teacher the school or other. But I can recognizance agony and heartache that could have easily been avoided, with two small words that would have made a special needs child’s holiday-epic.

      Gooble-Gobble.

      Bobbi Romans

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  2. I saw the video when it first came out. I was mad that I waited for over 12 minutes to see this crime made against this child. Honestly it looked like the teacher was looking off to the left when she “snatched” the microphone and then moved to the left because as we know… these recitals can get loud. Hearing the other side of the coin… I feel even worse for the teacher.

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  3. @ShortLittleRebel, what facts? What you “Claim?” Your usage ” And yet, they also claim they don’t want their children to be treated any differently than other children.” Clearly shows you have NO IDEA. NONE of the true situation.

    @CarolynHector: You can see how the teacher missed it? There are 3 children on stage. Two spoke and left and the gasp I heard on the audio, was clear and not from just one parent. So to say a teacher “missed” seeing a child in obvious distress, doesn’t speak well of her monitoring abilities. A child with a physical handicap, is visual. We can see the child/person in a wheelchair may need a boost here and there. A child with special needs isn’t as easy to determine when they need a boost and when we must let them fight their own way.

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